Does anyone ever feel like they can't be bothered to be an adult any more and just want to curl up and be looked after by their mum again? Feeling a bit low today and just stuffed my face with rubbish which of course made me feel awful. When I was doing it I was just thinking that I couldn't be bothered to care but of course I do care and now I feel really low about my self and my appearance 😔 I just needed to say this, hope you guys don't mind xx

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Madeleine Shaw
over 3 years

Such lovely messages!! Stay strong ladies you're all so amazing and doing so well. Lots of love xxx

bakerbex
over 3 years

So overwhelmed by everyone's support. It's so helpful to find that other people struggle too. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed, I look around and think everyone else is in control of their life! Particularly now when you see images of people working out and doing yoga and eating kale (all of which I do!) but when I am feeling low I forget that most of the time I do that too and focus on the chocolate bar I just inhaled and how I feel like a slob. It's like all your hard work that you do 90% of the time doesn't exist and your swallowed up by this moment of self hate and you can't see past it. Luckily I have you guys and my dog that just looks at me and says, let's go for a walk and helps me get out of the kitchen or off the sofa and out of my bubble. Lots of love ❤️❤️❤️

Ella Cockerell
over 3 years

This is the story of my life. Read my blog on acceptance https://confidentlyella.wordpress.com/2016/02/20/acceptance/ I think the key for you will be not seeing this as 'messing up' and therefore something to punish yourself for. You didn't mess up. You've been working hard and been dedicated to a whole new way of life for the last few weeks. Yesterday you took a break from that, today you are back on it. That's life, it's normal, accept it and don't beat yourself up for it. You don't deserve that. Head up, smile, move on! Xx

emsy
over 3 years

Hi Bex, so much of your message spoke to me and mirrored how I've been feeling the last two weeks. Like others I too struggle with forgiving myself for 'messing up', which usually occurs in the context of stress/difficult emotions/feeling overwhelmed by life and if I get really cross with myself, it tends to turn from a day in to a weeks/weeks. You're not alone, and I'm grateful to you for posting your message to remind me and others that I'm/we're not alone either. Thank you! 💖 Like princess said, see if there is a pattern, I've learned that there's usually something else going on (stress, not sleeping well, hormones, feeling bloated, not eating enough, not prepping, feeling upset) that starts it all off, and I find it helpful to know this, as it reminds me that these are factors that make many people vulnerable to eating emotionally, and that it's not something about me as a person that is failing. Having read your post and the responses from others I'm resolved to let the last 2.5 weeks go, forgive myself for whatever misdemeanours I think I've committed, and turn again to caring and looking after myself. We deserve to feel good. ✨👊🏻💞💪🏻✨Thank you again for sharing xx

hollydo
over 3 years

Eggs and rye is the dream! Great start to the day xx

hollydo
over 3 years

I'm all about the self sabotage. It's draining and awful but at least you're recognising it. It takes a pretty strong person to admit to it and be self aware. You're only human - try to be kind to yourself there are far worse things you could do. You are fabulous! Never forget that 😊

Cheryl72
over 3 years

Sending lots of love your way- today we start afresh xx

bakerbex
over 3 years

Thank you guys, it's so comforting to know that I'm not the only one who messes up and self sabotages. Sometimes I feel like I' a bit of a weirdo when my emotions get taken out on my diet. I had eggs on rye bread this morning with my turmeric milk! Moving on up! 👍

Neesey257
over 3 years

"It's a bad day, not a bad life". One of my favorite sayings. Don't be too hard on yourself. 😘😘

liv_healthier
over 3 years

I am in the exact same boat today. When I get stressed I eat loads - I don't even want or need to it's just a coping mechanism and then the whole cycle of feeling like a failure etc begins just as you describe it. I am going to try and forget about tonight (though it's been most nights this week 😢) and replace it with yoga . Try and do the same ☺️ Hope you're ok. I totally get it so you're not alone xxx

morglow
over 3 years

I completely know the feeling and we have all been there! These are the moments we have to try and be kind to ourselves

Jackie Richards
over 3 years

Just put it behind you and focus on tomorrow- one day at a time X

pincess
over 3 years

It is. I am a lifetime self loather so the change has been hard. Meditation is so good xx

bakerbex
over 3 years

Thank you Princess, I've tried to just let that feeling go and I had a relaxing bath and now I'm starting fresh. I keep trying to remind myself that a bad meal doesn't need to turn into a bad day or week. It's just that feeling of letting yourself down that's hard to keep away. I need to do more meditation.

pincess
over 3 years

I often feel like that. I have discovered the pattern takes form when I eat food that is unhealthy and makes me feel crap. Then guilt sets in, self loathing rears its ugly head and I think that's when you need some familiarity- like your mum.
You just have to go with the feeling, accept it for what it is and then pick yourself up tomorrow and start looking after yourself again. If you are still lucky enough to have your mum, give her a call or a visit. If not take your self on a visualised meditation that she is there and giving you what you need.
Whatever happens - look after yourself and don't beat yourself up and you will instantly feel better. Think what advice you would give a friend in your position and apply that advice to yourself. Hugs xx